Easing Grief with the Warmth of Self-Compassion

We feel the future dissolving in our hands.

We’ve lost the ability to be present with those we love.

There’s the insecurity of our own vulnerable health.

Friends or family may face death alone, and we are not there.

We were not able to say a good good-bye.

The bottom may be falling out on so many levels.

What can hold us in these uncertain times?

How can we cope with the emotions swirling through us day and night?

Grief is a natural response when someone close to us dies, yet often we are completely unprepared for the intense feelings and chaos that are unleashed. After someone has died, we long to find ways to show our love, or heal the relationship, but don’t know how. There are four things I’ve learned that help to ease grief: 1st – connection; 2nd – finding a refuge or source of peace; 3rd – offering spiritual support for the deceased, and 4th – having compassion for yourself. No matter how long ago your loved one has gone, here are meaningful tools that can support your process emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Christine Longaker is author of “Facing Death and Finding Hope,” published in 9 languages. She has forty years’ experience training Palliative Care professionals in contemplative approaches to end-of-life care, and she’s experienced the death of two partners. Currently, Christine is writing and teaching on resilience, forgiveness and self-compassion, and guiding open meditations every Sunday on zoom.

The series of 4 workshops (and weekend course) includes:

The natural process of grief

Methods for healing the relationship and saying good-bye

The spiritual dimension of death

Continuing bonds

Finding a refuge or source of peace

Strengths that help us heal and transform suffering

Self-compassion meditations

Compassionate listening

Spiritual practices for supporting the deceased

“I participated in your first Easing grief online workshop on Sept 19th. Along with everyone in this strange time of pandemic, fires and smoke, and political chaos, I am experiencing a deep grief for all that was ‘normal” and familiar’- intensified by the death of my beloved partner in the midst of our collective angst. Thank you, Christine for ‘Easing Grief’ – offering connection, refuge and compassion to me and all who joined you.”  – Linda, California


“Thank you so much for your beautiful guidance and energy! This was very helpful for me and I look forward to your other dates. My husband crossed over in May and my life has been scattered and challenging.  Your resources have helped find some grounding stability that will help me move forward with love and compassion!”         – Brenda, Delaware


Single Workshop:

Feb. 6th, 10 – 1pm GMT, 11 – 2pm Europe

This 3-hour workshop includes:

  • The natural process of grief
  • Continuing bonds
  • Spiritual support for the deceased
  • Self-compassion meditation
  • Compassionate listening

Read more   To register:    Tel. +353 089 4218127


MARCH – JUNE “Easing Grief” Online Course

A series of 4 online workshops: Mar. 20, April 17, May 15, and June 19.

Time:  6 – 8.30pm Australian Eastern, 7-9.30am GMT,  8 – 10.30am European.

NOTE: There’s an error in the hours on the Australian website below. The workshops are 2.5 hours, so the first one will run from 6 – 8.30pm Australian Eastern Summer Time.

Click here to read more 

Click here to register 


Free resources for you, including “A Simple Ritual for Saying Good-bye”.


30 APRIL – 2 MAY COURSE  Deutsch!

Den Schmerz der Trauer lindern durch die Wärme wahren Selbstmitgefühls

 In-person weekend and/or online course. English with German translation

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Tibethaus Deutschland
Kaufunger Str. 4
D-60486 Frankfurt

To register, read here.

Contact E-mail:  Tel: +49 (0)69 7191 3595


MARCH 5 – 7th   Von Last zu Leichtigkeit– Durch Selbst-Mitgefühl das Herz befreien

From Adversity to Aliveness: the power of self-compassion to free your heart 

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We live in difficult times, with a cloud of uncertainty hanging over every aspect of our lives. Besides this, we may have a history of adversity, disconnection, or unresolved wounds. We may suffer from low self-esteem, or believe we are unworthy of love and belonging. Often, we fall prey to habits that lead to harsh self-blame. Our days feel unsettled and sleep is elusive.

With unique applications of compassion, insight and mindfulness in this course, it’s possible to dismantle the sources of negative patterns and false beliefs. You can create a new, empowered relationship with your “inner critic”. You learn strengths that help you understand and heal suffering, and exceptional guided meditations designed to help you change the way you feel about yourself and your body. You’re given practical skills for bringing the mindful presence of meditation into communicating and every part of your daily life. You learn a way of listening with the heart that’s nourishing and healing. All of these become your stepping-stones to enhanced resilience, ease and joy.

Fr | 5.3.2021 | 18:30 – 21:00
Sa | 6.3.2021 | 9:30 – 17:00
So | 7.3.2021 | 9:30 – 13:00

Kontakt: Holger Sieler     030.23 25 50 10

     Mo + Mi 14:00 – 17:00; Di + Do 10:00 – 12:30


April 9 – 11   Joy, Ease and Self-Forgiveness Discover the power of genuine compassion to lighten your life

Cultivating genuine understanding and compassion for yourself – which results in self-forgiveness – reconnects you with the “unshakable freedom of heart” that is your birthright.

Seminar topics:

  • Dismantling the barriers to self-forgiveness
  • Insights for understanding and accepting yourself
  • Four strengths for healing suffering
  • Transforming your “inner critic”
  • Training in Compassionate Listening
  • Practical “emergency method” of self-compassion in crises
  • Meditations that promote a healthy sense of connection and compassion for yourself and others

Register:    Tel. +353 089 4218127


Every Sunday: Guided Meditations – open to all

It’s crystal clear, during this time of the Covid-19 crises, that as threads in the tapestry of humanity, we are all connected and so what each of us does affects the other.

Collectively we are facing huge losses and uncertainty. Loss of income, of work, of freedom, of meaning. And there is a sorrow there, of anticipatory grieving. What if we fall ill, what if someone we love is whisked away from our life without warning?

Let’s be a light for each other.

I’ve been thinking a lot these days of what Clarissa Pinkola Estes wrote after 9/11: “Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times.”

That’s my motivation for offering these online meditations. If you want receive the zoom link for Sunday meditations with Christine Longaker, and receive a free meditation download: “Feeling Worthy of Love”, please write:, or sign up to the newsletter here.

“May everyone have a peaceful heart and mind

and grow in responsible and tender kindness during these coming months.

May we know our refuge, and

 be a light shining the way for others.”

-Christine Longaker


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