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Please share: How are the “Feeling Worthy of Love” meditation and the Challenge going for you?

What differences are you noticing?

40 Comments

Patricia · July 22, 2019 at 12:55 pm

Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source
of loving compassion for everyone.
You feel like you’ve come home;
home to your true self.
Yesterday was a practice and study day. I spent longer in the meditation and also going back through other teachings I’ve had on meditation. Later in the afternoon, I had made plans to go see a friend and then to a dance performance with another friend. It was a full day, and one that I’m not so accustomed to doing. Even though it was a day that went into the late evening, it flowed beautifully. Being in the presence of others in various situations: private or public, with late starting times, hunger, and high heat, I saw how this practice can come home to this true self—one that sees the goodness, not only in myself but others as well. It’s about letting go of judgment of self and others almost effortlessly.

Maria · July 22, 2019 at 10:01 am

It’s day 7. Morning: My head was full of thoughts today. Thoughts of family of the past and of now. Most of them of the men in my life who have been oppressors. What was
it about me that I had attracted oppressors in my life since birth? This has
haunted me and it has confused how I live my life. Too many thoughts. Too
much tension. How could the love get through? Through all of that I know that
underneath all of that, love is there and I know that these thoughts are not who
I am. They just take centre stage a lot which makes me feel that I need more
love medicine such as this meditation, over and over and over.

Yolanda · July 21, 2019 at 9:06 pm

As the days go through I feel more and more confortable with the meditation. My mind is more calm, less distracted.
Following your advices I have tried not to put too much effort into visualitations and I only try to feel my body, my inner energy and it woks better for me.

During the day I say to me the sentence “I’m worthy of love, I’m enough” in different situations, such as: wainting in the traffic light, in the supermarket checkout, while talking to people…
I do the same when I look at the landscape and in those cases I feel myself trully conected with the Erth, as one of her daughter and I feel that the Earth is going to take good care of me, that the Earth loves me as I am and this feeling is very beautiful and powefull.

Patricia · July 21, 2019 at 11:47 am

Day 5: Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source
of loving compassion for everyone.

I woke this morning with my sister on my mind. She is going through quite a ‘rocky’ place in a long-time relationship. So it was very timely to more actively spread this loving to those who are suffering confusion, guilt and so many different emotions all tangled up together.

I had several possible ‘projects’ to work on. One would take me out of the house, the other would keep me alone with many projects to work on. I realized that I didn’t have any food I wanted for breakfast… decisions to stay or go became embroiled and I became anxious.

As the anxiousness grew stronger I felt it in my body. I stopped in my steps from one room to the other and asked myself… what to do when I feel anxious? Of course, meditate!

However, the practice, now on its fifth day, lead to resistance. AH! I recognized this as a time to just relax… Drop the agenda. Let go. And so instead of any visualization or words, I just sat and watched. Soon, my body started to let go of any anxiety as did my mind.

I recognized that I needed a break but not to forget what had already been shown. So many times I’ve heard, ‘If there is an obstacle—Remove it! Knowing it was just an obstacle—resistance—it could be overcome. So, instead of an obstacle it became a treasure to lead me back to my cushion.

Oh, and by the way… there was plenty of food for breakfast. May all beings be nourished in whatever way is beneficial, whether it be emotionally or physically.

“May everyone, including all those I have a connection with, experience healing and come to know they are worthy of love.”

Esther · July 21, 2019 at 10:01 am

I’ve been struggling a bit with the meditation. It’s as if I don’t know what unconditional love feels like. It feels like I’ve been standing outside of life.I’ve always lived alone, have no children and no career to speak of. The feeling of worthlessness is strong at times. Yesterday when doing the practice there was a little softening. It’s a start.

Patricia Best · July 20, 2019 at 10:49 am

Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source
of loving compassion for everyone.

I didn’t start my day with the meditation even though I kept thinking about it. My husband was leaving for the weekend and I walked alone. Sometime in the afternoon, immersed
In some quiet activity, I remembered activity of this upcoming weekend and some unexpected jealousy arose.

I found it interesting to see how skillfully it had crept in with such cunningly subtleness.
And yet, because of the awareness that ‘No matter what has happened in my life, I have
always been loved’, I was able to see, send some love to myself and a bit of warmth for the person that it was connected with. This is a priceless practice.

Christine · July 20, 2019 at 10:32 am

For some, visualization comes easily. And that’s not true for other people. So here’s a workaround: focus on feeling. Bring your awareness to the feeling of gentle warmth in your body, to the feeling of energy moving throughout your body. Feel yourself connected with the earth beneath you, and with your dear heart. Then as you repeat the phrases, “I am worthy of love and belonging. I am enough” – let your mind bring the feelings and the words together. Warmth, life energy and connection are one and the same as “I am worthy of love. I am enough.”

Maria · July 20, 2019 at 8:06 am

My body’s feel was one of listening today. It felt more open and
receptive than I had been used to in the past 4 days. My temperature felt
warmer and my son and grandson were very present in my minds eye. The
anger, hurt and fear was also in the forefront and was running by
and I could feel in stead of think that that resistance and approach was a reaction to a lack of not getting what I or they needed, or that maybe that in themselves couldn’t
even express or know what they needed. It left me feeling sad, yet with a
yearning for resolve…………..

Yolanda Gonzalez Castro · July 19, 2019 at 8:40 pm

Yesterday the meditation worked better for me. I felt less distracted and more calm. After the meditation I had to make some call phones a bit stressful and I felt more confident as if the meditation would have given me more the courage to deal with them.

Today,again I was quite distracted in the morning’s meditation. Actually, in the morning I usual feel more anxious, even my breathing is quite short and unsettle. But in the evening’s meditation I felt very well,calm, in peace and very connected withmyself and everything around me. It was a magic moment.
Anyway I yet struggle to visualize. Any tips or advice would be very welcome, thanks.

    Maria · July 20, 2019 at 9:21 am

    If I may respond Yolanda for you as well as for myself.
    The words I hear. I still struggle to visualise?
    In the word struggle implies a fight, a block.
    And the question is visualisation a must?
    If we let go of the idea of the need to visualise, there will be no need for a struggle then maybe an unfolding can occur of itself. Maybe something other than the you so desires and still has as much effect?
    Does this make any sense?
    We are here and we are on the right path. Lots of love💖

      Yolanda · July 20, 2019 at 9:40 pm

      You are right, Maria. Sometimes I try so hard to make it happens that it just goes the other way around and it becomes even more difficult.
      So next time I will focus on my body’s feelings. Thanks a lot for the advice.

Anonymous · July 19, 2019 at 8:23 pm

I loved your explanation about receiving love from mother earth in the email today, the timing was perfect for what has been coming up for me in the last few days, thank you! Although I have been irregular with doing the daily meditations, I find the phrases from the meditations coming to my mind at key moments when I need them. I practiced with the meditations intensively on day 2 and 3 and it feels like they are there in the background of my mind ready to pop up when I need them like when the voice of my inner critique gets loud or I when I’m feeling not seen by someone, then this little voice chimes in with ‘you are loved, you are enough’, ‘forgiveness is unconditional and always available’. Super helpful. For the next few days I aspire to do the meditations more regularly and I look forward to seeing what happens then. I find the pacing and content of the emails pretty close to perfect. Not too many which runs the risk that I would ignore them, brief and relevant so I want to read them and they don’t take too much time. Infrequent enough that I respond with oh good there is an email, I almost forgot about the challenge today let me get back into it.

    Meredith · July 19, 2019 at 8:25 pm

    Ooops did not mean to be anonymous, this is Meredith from Austin, TX

Patricia · July 19, 2019 at 1:58 pm

Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source
of loving compassion for everyone.

Yesterday I drove to a appointment with my acupuncturist. Since it’s a rather long but
smooth ride, my thoughts and energy were easily able to connected with the vision of
the meditation. During the ride it was mostly the reminder that I am loved. I am enough.
A few times, those words came as I am love. I am enough.
Once on the acupuncturist’s table, it was easy to rest in visualization of the warmth flowing through me. Thank you for this beautiful practice.

Christine · July 19, 2019 at 7:11 am

Thank you all for your feedback – both here and via email – on how the Challenge is going for you. For some of you, there was an experience of ease and nourishment, and for others it’s been more challenging, with feelings of unworthiness, sadness or numbness. And I appreciate your courage to acknowledge these difficult reactions and continue with the meditation, understanding that now, old patterns have the chance to be loved and washed away. As I wrote to one participant, if it feels too much, then instead of doing the full meditation, imagine the part of you with the painful emotion is sitting on your lap. Saying to him or her, “I see you and care about you; because it’s hard, you have all my compassion.” Just that. Whatever you are feeling, recognise that it’s a part of you who’s suffering, so instead of rejection, offer yourself the gentle warmth of compassion. Thank you for your courage, and for giving yourself the gift of changing your feelings towards yourself.

Maria · July 18, 2019 at 8:04 pm

It’s day three and in the morning I forgot to do the meditation, however, I managed to remember to say “I am worthy of love, I am enough” in the course of the morning. I felt warm, content and happy to just be in that moment with who and where I was.

In the evening I did the meditation and there was that stiff and distant person who sat there and went through the motions and felt nothing. Such a contrast to the morning, and I hadn’t even done the meditation!! I feel like I’m on a roller coaster.

Susanne · July 18, 2019 at 11:44 am

First day I was feeling good after the Meditation for a while – then, later on, in the afternoon, I felt the heavy blockage of my heart, which I know already (physically painful) and a numbness of feelings coming together with that pain.
In the evening generally better, numbness disappeared, normal connection to my emotions again.
Yesterday it seemed to go quite well and I was able to apply the Meditation by remembering it throughout the day.
Today, though having slept and dreamed well, I woke up with a leaden feeling – as if the burden of my life would press me down. I guess it’s a kind of reaction to the practice.
I often suffer from depression, but normally my inner critic is pulling me down.
The Meditation did not float at all today, but I’ll try to do it more often during the rest of the day.
At least my inner critic was quite silent these days, that’a already amazing!

Anna · July 18, 2019 at 8:47 am

I started the practise a day late. Yesterday was my 1st day. It was good. I did not have resistance, but I was a bit distracted. I began to love the words I was saying and was saying them when it was over.

    Anna · July 20, 2019 at 9:07 am

    I’m still doing the challenge and finding it helpful. I tend to write my comments on the feedback sheet. I am of course a day behind so will finish after the rest of you.

      Anna · July 22, 2019 at 8:44 am

      Checking in to say I’m on course. On day 6. Wishing you all well as you finish this challenge. Namaste.

Dieter · July 17, 2019 at 8:59 pm

Even stressing myself in work, I remembered sometimes. Yesterday it was a my heart, overflowing with love, today it was a warm prickling of love. It changes something, I feel more kindness, more friendlyness to myself.

Dieter · July 17, 2019 at 8:56 pm

Even stressing myself in work I remembered sometimes. Yesterday it was a heart, overflowing with love, doday it was a warm prickling of love in my body. Yes, it does some change, there is more kindness and friedliness to myself.

Yolanda · July 17, 2019 at 6:01 pm

Yesterday, in my 1st day my inner critic was beating me up quite hard.
As you say in today’s mail, it was as if the sentence “I’m worthy of love” didn’t feel true for me. As if
I didn’t deserve to be loved.
Moreover, I felt very distracted durind the meditation, my mind was like a little monkey jumping from one branch to another.
Today my inner critic was more calm but I was very distracted, again. I struggled to visualize the river of love going into all my cells.
I would love to notice any change but at the moment I feel the same unworthy of love person.
As you say ,Christine” it takes time to replace a very fixed habits but I will keep going as I think your work and meditation are a very powerful tools to make it happen. Thanks a lot for sharing with us

Patricia · July 17, 2019 at 1:01 pm

Day 1: Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source of loving compassion for everyone. This really began the 7-day off to a wonderful and heart-felt intention. It helped me to immediately ‘join in’ to the practice.

Day 2: Noble intention: Nourishing myself by receiving love, may I become a source
of loving compassion for everyone.

Although I didn’t listen to this meditation until after my morning walk, it seemed to have
been ‘installed from the first listening yesterday. Today, I invited my husband to take a
walk to see the newest improvement to a path that we had been avoiding.
They were in the midst building a low bridge where before the water would wash away
the ground.

As I walked with him, I was very aware of how my body had changed over the last 9 months after I had slipped and broken my ankle. It has taken much longer than I had expected to regain my sense of wellness. However, what was more evident on this walk was the laboring of my husband’s breath and his remarks about how hot and humid it was so early in the morning. There was concern for him because he spends much time at the local gym exercising. I said nothing because it could have made him feel more uncomfortable. So I only acknowledged what he was feeling. Now, as I listened to this meditation, I see where I could have moved deeper to see that he too is worthy of loving-compassion. So, I’ll certainly use this beautiful meditation for a morning walk.

Maria · July 17, 2019 at 9:23 am

On the first day I had to ask myself if I was actually capable of loving myself at all as the body was going through the motions but it felt that nothing was coming through.
This morning the inner critic was subtly and frantically beating me up as usual and afterwards I received your 2nd email Christine so the timing was impeccable. So thank you for that.
Patience and not buying into the critic as truth is crucial as one insight for now. I do feel I need a lot of love but I also feel I’ve never known real love so I guess affection, warmth, kindness, understanding falls under the umbrella of love?

Claudia · March 6, 2019 at 7:28 pm

By practicing the meditation I feel like taking a warm bath. I`m feeling so comfortably warm in my whole body that I was desirous of spreading this warmth to others. And I think I`ve been successful today in my Yoga class and in contact with other persons, even during salary agreements. – Yesterday I had a painful insight: coming home, no obligations to perform, I was running around being scared to do something wrong. It didn`t make sense at all, but it seems to be an underlying pattern which has come to the surface. I am thankful that I can take refuge to the Loving-myself-meditation.

Lea · March 6, 2019 at 4:56 pm

i’m able to apply the beauty of this practice a bit more, and i’m more willing to trust myself. Christine, your words are seeping in much deeper, and i’m so grateful, thank you.

    Lea · March 9, 2019 at 4:03 pm

    Christine, i have been profoundly moved and so very touched by the warmth and power of this 7-day challenge. Your care and caring is so exquisitely perfect, and i am so very grateful. i offer you a truly magnificent, endless and genuine thank you. – Lea

Christine · March 4, 2019 at 7:34 pm

It’s very touching to read all your posts. Thank you for giving yourself this gift of doing the meditation “Feeling Worthy of Love” for (at least) 7 days. My sense is, when we try something new and experience firsthand the benefit, we’re much more likely to keep “making it real”. It helps to have the support of others too. Just feeling so grateful you’re all here. Thank you, and all my love.

Andrea · March 3, 2019 at 8:07 am

Going through this make me more aware of the feeling and moments where I do not feel loved and gives me a Chance to take more care. In the beginning there was a lot of sadness which belonged mostly to the inner child not being loved and sometimes there is sort of a barrier and I do not feel touched. When thinking about you advice with the inner critic I rather thought of my inner child not understanding the english message being of young age and needing german words. I found it hard to translate the english version of I am worthy of love and belonging – so many nouns that make it not easily flowing. It is easier in the second part of the meditation where it is said: You are loved.So I changed the first part into I am loved and accepted just as I am. This works better. But in fact it takes more time to bring the translation at the right points and the meditation could be a little slower. I will Keep on

Anonymous · March 3, 2019 at 7:52 am

i’m able to journal and feel my deepest physical and psychological pains. and they led me to a space of gratitude for the stillness that is not dead after all; an exquisite unshakeable Silence that lets all hurt be heard and felt. and it feels a lot like Joy. it looks a lot like my Insides are smiling softly.

Arne · March 2, 2019 at 10:33 pm

I am surprised about the impact of this simple exercise. I feel in fact more loved. Something relaxed in me after the little session. And at the same time I can feel more the aspects in me which still in disharmony . And so I can give them love as well …
And for me too, it would be still more helpful, if the recording from you Christi would be a little bit slower. In any case I will continue …

Claudia · March 2, 2019 at 3:56 pm

Dear Christine,
“I am worthy of love” is an excellent antidote to the prayer during the Catholic Church Communion “O Lord, I am not worthy . . . (that thou shouldest enter under my roof, but speak the word only and my soul shall be healed.“) But I have to admit that even after decades of critical reflection about my catholic education there is still a slight trace of bad conscience when I`m pronouncing “I am worthy of love.” I decided not to pay too much attention to it, because I really sense that the path of love is the only way to healing.
And I would like to add a little comment to a technical aspect of the recording: for me as a German native speaker, not very used to listen to English instructions, the instructions are performed too fast. I help myself by decreasing the speed on my smartphone (and made a transcription).
With kind regards,
Claudia

Pia Struycken · March 2, 2019 at 3:51 pm

Thank you Christine for bringing this love to us, I am dealing with sharp pains for several weeks, and this meditation helps, to relax more into it, to accept and remind myself over and over again that I have pain and I am okay and love, and I am love. Blessings to all!!

Alexandra Haug · March 2, 2019 at 2:16 pm

Christine, I am very thankful. You put so much effort, work and heart blood into it. What a generosity also to share it with us. I am glad to be part of this online course. Thanks a lot to you.

Christiane LoCascio · March 1, 2019 at 8:10 pm

Today was Day 1 of the challenge. I did 7 mins of Alternate Nose Breathing first followed by the meditation. At the beginning I was aware of my heavy legs that often feel as if they’re leaden. My leg/calf muscles were extremely tight also. It’s a symptom of a chronic illness I’ve lived with a long time. At the end of the meditation my legs had lightened considerably and were much more softer and flexible. It’s very interesting because I was doing a Neural Brain Retraining program designed for people with my Illness and finding lots more energy and a calmer limbic system. This 7 day challenge will be a great addition to my neural reset work which I have been avoiding restarting. Thank you for your wisdom and help today!

    Christine Longaker · March 1, 2019 at 8:56 pm

    You’re very welcome Christiane! I have found its helpful too with chronic illness, so it’s great to read your feedback. I’m very sorry for the delay in your comment getting posted – that’s how it often goes these days.

Christine Longaker · February 27, 2019 at 10:42 am

Please share: How are the “Feeling Worthy of Love” meditation and the Challenge going for you?

What differences are you noticing?
NOTE: There’s a delay from when you write to when it gets posted, and I’m sorry for that!

    Delores Turner · March 1, 2019 at 10:29 pm

    Today was day one, it was hard for me to relax but then I did feel heaviness and as I moved forward in my thought it brought me to tears I have fibromyalgia anxiety and depression and some other physical issues. What I did want to tell you is as I was doig my meditation my dog jumped up on my lap and fell asleep. I want to thank you and say God bless you for caring about people like myself.

      Sabine · March 5, 2019 at 6:17 pm

      Dear Christine,
      I just had the feeling at the end of your meditation that it might be a nice round-up to repeat one of your “magic” sentences again when we install the message to keep it as a long-term memory, either I´m worthy of love… or You are and have always been loved… It´s just a spontanous feeling. You may think abaout it.
      Thanks for your inspiration.
      Sabine

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