Hello, and a warm welcome to you . . .

In this 7-day self-love challenge, the contemplation I’ve chosen for us to do: “Feeling Worthy of Love” is the very best from my forthcoming book, and I am really happy to offer it to you.

Why do we enter a 7-day self-love challenge?

When we want to make a commitment to change, the encouragement and heartfelt support of others can help us. It’s a team effort!

What’s this challenge about?

This self-love challenge helps us let go of the haunting sense that we don’t deserve love.

Our feeling is not true; everyone deserves love, no matter what.

But we’ve been telling ourselves we aren’t worthy of love for so long we believe it, and so it feels very real.

Doing this meditation twice a day can slowly change our feelings of unworthiness. Or at least, we can get a start on it. And we may also notice a shift in other feelings as well.

What is the “Feeling Worthy of Love” meditation?

“Feeling worthy of love” is an eleven-minute contemplation you can download for free and listen to at least twice a day. You can read about it in my blog: “Feeling Worthy of Love”.

In the contemplation, you’ll imagine a loving warmth coming from the earth into your feet and your whole body. This warmth starts filling you with love and the messages that you are worthy of love, and that you are okay.

While listening, you might decide to silently repeat other words that work better for you, and that’s great.

You can adapt the meditation to do it in a shorter way, or try it while you’re walking or lying down. Any variations that you find are helpful, please use them!

Remember, if you want to feel a change, you’ll have to keep doing the meditation!

Flow of the 7-day Self-Love Challenge

FIRST and foremost: sign up on my newsletter! You’ll get an immediate confirmation email. THEN . . .

On Feb 28th, you’ll get an email with a link to download the following:

  1. The guided meditation “Feeling Worthy of Love” and an introductory track for the guided meditation

  2. The Commitment and Guidelines for the 7-day Self-Love challenge.

  3. The Self-Evaluation and Insights Form. This form helps you be aware of how much different feelings are bothering you, and then you can notice what, if anything, has changed at the end of the 7 days.

  4. The final Feedback Form, to fill out at the end of day 7.

Starting March 1st , for 7 days, please do your best to listen to the guided meditation twice a day.

I’ll invite you to “make it real” by staying aware of one aspect of the meditation during everything you do, so you can notice if you experience anything different as you go through your day.

        Read below: How do I “make it real”?

In your email inbox, you’ll get a daily inspirational email from me about how to understand the meditation and use it in a variety of ways.

Each day, you can keep track of any big or small differences you’re noticing in the Daily Insights – you’ll find that on page 2 of the Self-Evaluation Form.

In the emails I’ll be sending you, there will be a link to a private page where you can share your experience of doing the “Feeling Worth of Love” meditation and your questions.

     You are also welcome to email your insights: connect@christinelongaker.com. 

Halfway through the week, I’ll post a response to everyone.

At the finish line

I sincerely hope you notice something changing in the way you feel about yourself or relate with others. Even small differences are encouraging, aren’t they?

Remember, you’re just beginning to change a lifetime of patterns, so please be gentle with yourself.

At the end of the last day, you’ll go back to the Self-Evaluation Form to note any changes.

Then, on the Feedback Form, you can write your insights, stories, and feedback to share with me.

How do I “make it real”?

It doesn’t matter how full your day is:

You’re really, really free in your mind, and

Your mind has a lot of power!

Just after finishing a meditation, consider the rest of your day: perhaps making breakfast, chatting with your family, driving to work, walking down a hallway, talking on the phone, sitting in a meeting with colleagues, or relaxing after dinner.

Imagine that you are remembering one aspect of the meditation in all these activities, perhaps silently repeating: “I am worthy of love, I’m okay”; or feeling a loving warmth coming into your body.

As you enter your day, challenge yourself to continue making the feeling real as often as you can. This is what’s going to bring about the change you’ve been longing for.

It’s gradual, it takes time, but research from the Universities of Oxford and Exeter demonstrates there are measurable benefits from practicing self-compassion. The benefits are both psychological: easing of depression, anxiety, increasing feelings of kindness and connection, as well as physical: feelings of reduced stress, relaxation and safety.

At the start, you’ll forget to “make it real”, because old habits take over. Be creative in finding ways to remember: put a post-it note where you can see it, or set your phone to buzz once an hour.

If you team up with a friend on this 7-day challenge, you can text each other reminders. Have fun, and play with it!

When this Self-Love Challenge has ended

  • I highly recommend you continue listening to the contemplation once or twice a day, and explore ways to “make it real” during your day.
  • You are welcome to participate and share your insights in the Self-Compassion Community Facebook group.
  • The self-love challenge will launch again at the 1st of next month! You are welcome to join the next 7-day self-love challenge
  • You’ll be notified by email when I launch an online course, or when the Self-Compassion CD that has all the guided meditations from my book becomes available.


©2019 text and photo Christine Longaker

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@2019 Christine Longaker

Christine Longaker

Hospice and spiritual care pioneer and author of "Facing Death and Finding Hope: A Guide to the Emotional and Spiritual Care of the Dying," Christine Longaker is writing a book on Self-Compassion, and developing trainings and an online course based on the book.


Pamela D Sharpe · February 28, 2019 at 6:34 am

My self esteem is a concern for me.

Kathleen · February 19, 2019 at 3:04 am

Are you collecting data for a study to publish? Is program outside of Facebook? Is communication all via email? where is comment posted?

    Christine Longaker · February 22, 2019 at 10:18 am

    No I am not collecting any data to publish, but I hope sometime in the future that would be possible. Yes, the 7-day Challenge is outside of Facebook – it’s offered via my website. Those in the Challenge can post their insights and questions to me here in the comments section, or by email. Clear instructions will be emailed to everyone signing up.

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